I have found just recently that my girls like for me hum (o.k. so it's Braum's Lullaby) softly to them while holding them close and stroking their hair. You could try talking softly to her while you are picking her up, making sure that her behind is secure. I use the scoop method to pick mine up. I slide my hand under them from either the front or the back, and then place my other hand over their back to secure them for the "lift-off".
I talk to mine a lot. I tell them good-bye every morning and great them with a big "Hey, girly-girls" when I come through the door in the evening. I put my purse down and go straight for the fridge for their romaine. They're usually wheaking before I even get to the fridge. They have me well trained.
Be gentle and patient I suppose is my advice, and soon you too will be a properly trained piggy slave.
